WILMINGTON — Robert Stephen Cooley, Sr., 86, of Wilmington, North Carolina, passed away peacefully at home on February 9, 2026, surrounded by the love of his family.
Born in White Plains, New York, Bob was a proud graduate of Norwich University, where he was commissioned as an Army Second Lieutenant upon graduation. He served his country with honor for six years as a Special Weapons Officer, with assignments in Korea and New Mexico—an experience he carried with pride throughout his life. He was especially proud to see his children, Rob and Lauren, follow in his Army footsteps, a legacy of service that meant so much to him.
Bob enjoyed a long and successful career as a chemist before embracing his entrepreneurial spirit and founding a liquid chromatography company. After selling his company and retiring, he didn’t sit still for long. Bob had a remarkable gift for turning his passions into new adventures and hobbies into business opportunities. Later in life, his appreciation of fine wine led him to become a part owner of The Wine Sampler, where he found great joy in sharing his knowledge and pouring wine for friends—both old and new. Anyone who attended a tasting knew exactly why he quickly became the most popular pourer in the room.
Those who knew Bob knew he was happiest outdoors tending his garden, fixing things around the house (measure once, cut twice… or three times sometimes), making stained glass trinkets, and making pancakes with his grandchildren. He treasured daily cocktail hour, lively conversation, and any opportunity to talk about wine. He was an avid cyclist and found his greatest joy in time spent with his grandchildren, who brought endless pride and happiness to his life.
Bob is survived by his beloved wife of 59 years, Jan Cooley; his son, Rob Cooley, Jr. (Jeannie); his daughters, Lauren Cryblskey (Kevin) and Krissy Mingia (Jamie); and his cherished grandchildren: Robbie, Abby, Jack, Owen, William, Rosie, and Beatrice.
He is also survived by his sister, Leslie Cruz (Benjamin), along with his nieces and nephews: Charlena, Leticia, Matt, and Rob.
Bob will be remembered for his warmth, generosity, quick wit, and his love of family, good wine, and good company. He leaves behind a legacy of laughter, kindness, and countless wonderful memories. He will be deeply missed by all who were fortunate enough to know and love him.
A Celebration of Life Mass will be offered on February 20 at 10:30 AM at St. Mark Catholic Church.
In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to Lower Cape Fear Hospice. The family would also like to extend their heartfelt gratitude to the wonderful caregivers at Lower Cape Fear Hospice for the compassion and care they provided.
